I Have to be What I Need First

I have to be what I need first

I just have to say something that has been lingering in the back of my head especially every time I get on Twitter and see these "relationship goals” or “ I’m tired of being single” posts. IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE READY TO BE IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW. “Oh, Morgan this is common sense.” Right? You would think that this was common sense because if you’ve ever tried speaking to the opposite sex period, you know that there are people out here that are far from ready to invest in a relationship and THAT’S OKAY. Social media makes us think that relationships are the only source of complete happiness and that’s far from the truth! Yes, entering a healthy relationship with someone should bring happiness and even enhancements in certain areas, but a person should come into a relationship “whole” meaning with or without someone by their side they are able to grow and find themselves.

Easier said than done right? No FT calls at night or good morning text can easily be something we feel left out about. However, I promise you that if you think that is “ goals” imagine coming in already content with yourself alone and having someone that brings that to another level. That’s more than any FT call or good morning text could give you. That’s maturity, that’s good communication, that’s loving the persons company and not having to depend on it. Setting your standards while single will make it so much easier to continue and grow with someone else. Twitter shows the superficial, I’m sorry. Not denying that some of the couples really may be happy, but they definitely aren’t going to show you the private times when things get rough and they have to put the phone down. Things get hard! Knowing and learning how to deal with that takes two people with strong minds and self worth. Getting through the things that “OMG. GOALS” doesn’t show is what will keep you two together.

This is why I say it’s okay to not be in a place where you can be in a romantic relationship because there is A LOT that goes into it and approaching it wrong can have you giving up on love and your standards. Of course we are all learning, but you don’t throw a kid into kindergarten without making sure they have some basic skills down first. Do the work on yourself now at whatever stage you’re at in life. It’s never too late! Get your standards in order, get your peace in order, get your happiness in order, get your spirituality in order. Keep growing and figure yourself out. When it’s time to match up with someone , you’ll know and you’ll be ready to work through it. Cheers to standards and growth because that’s what will help you be the best you!