Take me on a Date or Take my Number Out Your Phone.

Take me on a Date or Take my Number Out Your Phone.

I have been waiting to write this! Ladies, this right here is the level I want all of us to be on. I want us to be this bold with guys, this cut throat because if they can call us meals, they can take us out to one. I say this as a joke, but I mean it literally and physically. The overall point is that we need to consider letting people into our lives who present themselves off back with wanting to know us completely.

Now, I’ve been thinking for a while on what angle I wanted to take with this. Some thoughts that came across my mind are

“ How do I want to write this in a way that isn’t a complete male bash?” or “ How do I make sure that I don’t write this as a woman should be getting a whole bunch of material things in order for men to show them their worth.” I thought about this all the way until I sat in front of my computer screen and realized that if someone reads this to the end and just doesn’t understand where I’m standing, then they just don’t understand and that’s it. Writing is such a tricky game because people are at all different stages and what they take away could be nothing of what you intended to give.

With that being said, guys are a lot like a writers intent. They think what they’re saying is clear and direct, they are simple in their break down of shooting their shots. However, with that, girls tend to over think their approach and not take it for what it is. I have decided to point out the top three type of guys I see from the very beginning that can help you avoid the person who’s just trying to make their way to your room. I feel like all my blogs leading up to this was what to do if you already let the person in, this is intended to be a start to pin pointing the problem so that we don’t even get that far. So here are my top 3:

1.) The late night texter: I’m in college now and I feel like the late night texts just amplified. After a party, you’re going home super tired and someone you’ve met there or a repetitive offender you may have given into in the past text “Wyo, I’m trying to link with you”. They know you are going home and want to know “ Why they can’t join you”. If you let him come over that night, I can almost guarantee you it’s going to be the last thing on his mind to take you on a date after that. Those late night text can quickly turn you into the girl he ONLY text at night.

2.) The heart eyes under every picture: This could turn out good or bad. Social media is a fairly new and common way to shoot your shot at someone and most times it seems like it ends up being a “ let me see if I fill her notification page up will she text me back”. Someone saying “ Your a whole snack” may not be the best way to try and say they want to know you and not just your body.

3.) The honest guy: If someone tells you in the beginning what they want and it doesn’t line up with what you want, don’t go in thinking that you can change him. He told you what he wants, believe him. I think as girls we come into things with this fantasy mindset. We can’t change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. That shouldn’t even be something we have to deal with. We are focusing on growth in certain areas not changing who a person is.

Guys are the most simple/complex type of people. Us as girls are probably never going to figure them out just as they won’t get us. Keep in mind, I speak on guys because that’s what I have experience with, but this goes for anyone you are choosing to consider. A lot of these concepts can definitely be reversed to what us as girls do. Relationships are hard. Finding someone to be in a relationship with is even harder. Be strong, someone will fulfill your love story.