Be Ready
Be Ready
I say this in the nicest way possible (whenever I start like this I’m about to be real blunt lol). Leave me alone if you’re not ready. I’m speaking on myself, but I’m sure a lot of us can relate. No, I’m not saying you need to come to me with everything figured out and I honestly don’t even understand why this would be a thought because most times, especially for girls we are willing to meet you where you are, but this is with in reason. You have to be somewhere for me to meet you at and some of y’all…. Yeah, you’re not ready.
Some of you guys are probably still confused on the statement because you may think you’re ready to enter someone else’s life. Let me give you a couple things to think about when I say ready and then check back with me in the end.
What are you dealing with? This is such an essential question to think about before you approach anyone. Where do you and your ex stand, are you employed, in school, are you still hurt by something that happened in your childhood? Think about it all because when you approach someone to get involved with you, they get more than just the good parts. This just puts into perspective of if you even have the time or emotional space to add someone new.
What’s the benefit? I don’t believe that everyone you approach has to be someone you’ll seriously date. You could look at the first point and see that you just don’t have the time or emotional space and that’s cool. Not everyone is ready to date and I hope this blog post is starting to uncover that. What we aren’t going to do though is waste time. From personal experience, whenever someone has been up front with me on what they wanted we ended on pretty decent terms because you can’t really get mad at something you signed up for. Are you ready to display that level of maturity though? Are you okay with understanding that you may not be beneficial to everyone and they may not be the person that benefits you and what you need at this time?
Are you ready for the work? No matter if you went through the first couple of steps and figured out you aren’t ready for a serious relationship, with any type of relationship you choose to try to create with this person, it’s going to have some opportunity cost on both ends. Knowing that things aren’t always going to look good is hard when you have an idea of what you want to be seeing. Putting the work into yourself first so that you can pour into someone else and be able to put the work in to them is important.
So, now that you’ve read my three points where do you think you stand? If you look at these points and see that you may need some time to be single and figure some things out, that’s a noteworthy first step to getting to a point where you are ready. Just make sure you leave them alone though. Stay out of the DM’s for a while. Girls aren’t going anywhere. Guys aren’t going anywhere. There’s no rush just to land yourself in something toxic. Be ready, so you are set for the person who’s ready for you.
