Are you flirting with me?
Summer has officially begun and I couldn’t wait to get back to posting. I feel like to start off the vibes I want for this summer I had to post something fun because nothing but good memories and money will be made over this break, I’m speaking it into existence. With that, I think the warm weather brings more confidence. I mean we can have the legs out, skin glowing from the sun, can pick up more hours so checks look a little bigger. Perfect time to add a boo? Perfect time to go for what you want period. I was debating if I was going to give “ Shoot your shot advice” because I don’t know if I mentioned before, but I am a quality shooter. I’ll have to let you guys know game later though. I first felt like I had to come with the basics on how someone may approach you or how you find yourself approaching people first because dm’s have taken over the way we shoot now. Don’t forget that coming up to someone in person may get you a lot farther. I have made a list of the five types of flirters I see the most. You know I’m always trying to make sure we are prepared for it all , so I’ll let you guys choose what you think is effective or not.
The “ Make me laugh” flirt: I throw sarcasm into this group as well. It’s something attractive and annoying about a person that always has a good come back. This person is usually confident when they step to you and this is usually a good sign that you could be dealing with someone pretty smart because it takes a lot for someone to be good in the moment. If they can make you laugh on top of that they basically just shot all net. Just remember though, if they are quick witted now, they will always have a rebuttal later.
“Smiley” flirt: You guys already know how I feel about a nice smile. Someone who comes up to you and the first thing you notice is a cute smile that feels contagious can have you interested before they even open their mouth to speak.They will normally approach you knowing the power they hold and often times these are the people you let your guard down with. It’s something about their energy, like they didn’t just smile their way into ruining your life.
“ Anything to be noticed” flirt: We all know what i’m talking about and it’s honestly sad that you can probably name a person right now. As soon as the person they want comes in the room it’s like a switch is flipped on to do too much.This person is going to do anything to get your attention. You can often feel the insecurity of them over doing their moves. They want to impress you which is notable, but just don’t do it. Your friends are embarrassed and even if the shot is made, I can almost guarantee you could of done ten times less and still made it.
The “ Bold” flirt : This is what I aspire to be. I said what I said, I get what I want type. This shouldn’t be mistaken for the do too much type because it’s more so a person having the confidence to know that they are going to approach you directly with what they want and if it works, it works. If it doesn’t you tweaked lol. They aren’t asking for a snap, they want the number. This is something done by someone who has a strong confidence in themself and are usually people experienced in shooting so they know their caliber well.
“Touchy” flirt: This can either be really cringy or a solid move. Personal space in the beginning I just feel like is a sign of respect because…. I don’t know you for real yet. However, the “ trying to get past” waist touch at a party and you turn around to the right person may get a pass. Still a fine line though. You may want to look into trying other approaches because the older you get the more cringey this becomes. Some people are just genuinely more affectionate though. If you know you're not the type to like the random touches , this person may not be for you.
I feel like there is an honorable mention of the “stare” flirt. We all have been out and gave someone the “ i’m trying to get you to come over here” look. I’m trying to graduate from this method because although it is arguably one of the most effective ways to shoot despite guys liking to argue they don’t know what’s going on. It’s time to change it up. One last and most important rule to shooting is that shooting your shot is the fun part, don’t put too much stress into it.
