I Support the Cause.
You’re friends aren’t your friends for real. Okay, maybe not your friends exactly. I mean like probably one out of the many you claim to have isn’t your friend, but I’ll let you decide after you read my three points. This isn’t just friends though. This is anyone you claim to be in your corner. Family, significant other, mentors all of these people, just because they are always around for your successes and failures doesn’t mean they deserve to be and here’s why.
You have to constantly question: The people that you say are in your corner are people you should be confident in vouching for you when you aren’t around. That means they need to know about you, what you're doing currently, what your plans are. Are these conversations being had? Do you feel like they know just as much about you as you know about them and do they want to share the best version of you?
The reaction: Clearest sign that it’s time to do a cleaning of who you’re giving your time to. One of THE MOST annoying things to me is when I’m excited to tell someone something and they either point out the negative or don’t match my energy. Like boy, the fact that you were even someone I was excited to go to says a lot and this is how you act. Drop them. If you consistently feel as though you have to match their energy and die down your excitement, why keep them around? A win for one person should look like a win for everyone in the team.
People who care want updates: Someone who is in your corner is invested in you just as you are invested in them. Lets say for me and my blogs for example. The people close to me will bring it up and we talk about what they read or give me ideas for the next one. Asking someone “ how can you help?”, reposting content, “ How did ( whatever accomplishment you had) go?”. They follow through about things big or small. Support is a verb. Support is something you will need in the people around you consistently.
You are your biggest fan of course. If you don’t see the vision, how will anyone else? BUTTTT don’t tweak and let anyone tell you they are too busy in their own lives or fake support when things start looking good so they can tag their name to you when you make it. Everyone has a life and makes time for the things they find value in. If they don’t support you, they don’t value you.
