A Letter to the Girl Who Tweaked.
A letter to the girl who may have actually tweaked on them,
I already know that everyone I use to “talk” to is thinking this is about them *Inserts eye rolling emoji*. A reach. Buttttt, I will admit there have been one or two I think I walked away from a little too early and this is what I would have to say to the girl who may be in the same boat.
You have to confront what you’re scared of. You left because you were scared that whatever it is will eventually catch up to you. For me, I would say I fear being played. I don’t want anyone to ever say they had me in a place where I was able to be treated like a lame by them. That’s sadly part of relationships though. You’re going to be vulnerable which can sadly lead to you going out sad. Get to the root of it. Be smart, but also be okay with knowing things are going to happen and you are strong enough to bounce back from them.
If you are thinking about if the person knows you tweaked on them, they do. They saw the trait in you from the beginning and could have even had the lingering feeling that you were going to leave. Personally, when I have tweaked on someone it has never not ended in long conversations and heated messages. It’s not fun, even if it doesn’t end in a show. They are mad they ignored the signs and you are mad that they don’t understand why you want to leave. Grow from it because there is always something that could have been handled better. PLEASE don’t keep making the same mistake and realize everyone is going to respond differently to be tweaked on.
With that second point, Most times you just have to take the L silently and keep moving. I have a whole book of things I tell my friends when they ask me why *blank* and I stopped talking and if I tweaked on them my answer is never “ because I feared being vulnerable”. You made a choice, you told everyone about this choice and it may just be best to embrace what you chose. I mean if you’re willing to put your pride aside and risk dropping the ball twice with reshooting…. Kidding, you honestly have nothing to lose. Just make sure you’re thinking about the other person if you decide later you want to shoot again. You don’t want to be a tweak and someone who’s playing games. Also, keep in mind “Just because they are a good person, doesn’t mean they are good for you.” this quote may just be me saying something to try and make you feel better if the reshoot doesn't work, but it still holds truth.
You tweaked. We all do at least once and honestly you can’t say you didn’t learn from it. I think the worst part is when you get that initial realization of what you actually did. After that, you get past it though. You can keep moving.You have to. Just make sure that the next situation you get into is something you prepare yourself for. Oh, and if you’re being subtweeted, try to be the bigger person partly because it’s even worse to tweak and get embarrassed.
